My little cousin died last year, im pregnant and now everyone wants me to name the baby after her!?????

I got pregnant a year to the date of my lil 12 yr old cousins death. The family think its a sign from God or something that I must name my daughter after her. Is that fair, I mean... I am 18 1/2 wks pregnant and I found out I am having a girl. Ever since the family found out now they want me to name our baby girl after my little cousin named Rudi Shaytore' and she was actually named after her father!!!! She died of Lupus and family says I have no respect for her if I name the baby something else but I even traveled over 7000 miles to attend her funeral. I love her but that doesnt mean I have to name my baby after her, thats not fair to us. I told my mom I plan to name my daughter Jasmine Celeste and she almost had a heart attack and even hung up on me!! My deceased cousins mother doesnt even email me anymore because of it. I live in Japan due to my husbands job and I will move back to the states soon. I should have given birth by then. What should I do?